How often have we missed doing something we really wanted to to because we thought we didn’t have the time? When was the last time we put off calling mom or a brother or talking to a friend in need for days because of a lack of time.
My teacher once said that the only time one doesn’t have time is when one is dead. I’ve seen friends who were going to pass on develop a new perspective on time when they knew it was limited. Minutes in a day, family, personal relationships, doing things they’ve always wanted to do became so much more important as they rushed to make the most out of limited days or months. Those who were strong enough were lucky. Others who weren’t lay in beds talking about how they wished they could do this or that.
Reading Tuesdays With Morrie reminds me again that we don’t spend enough time doing things that matter. Some of us have forgotten to enjoy life, to be happy and to tender to our other needs as we rush about a daily ritual of earning money to accumulate this and that.
In my late twenties I was so preoccupied with working hard to buy a nice house and car that I lost myself in that chase and struggled to keep up with the tide of loans and bills.
Mitch Albom wrote about the hunger to gobble up new things and shared this … “These were people so hungry for love that they were accepting substitutes. They were embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back. But it never works. You can’t substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship.”
It seems my happiest moments were in the company of friends doing simple things like talking and doing silly things which didn’t cost an arm and a leg yet that didn’t register.
Over the last six years, I’ve rediscovered the joys of giving, doing things for other people and receiving thanks and love in return. Its hard to describe the feeling when someone gets better because of help you’ve extended or when you can see how much of a difference you’ve made in lifting a person out of the dumps they thought they were in. Sometimes all it takes is a few moment spent talking and I’m sure we all have a few moments to spare.
So I end this train of thought with a quote and a question.
“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?” ~John Wooden
Do we really not have time or can we take a little time away from other things for some moments to do right by ourselves and others?