Things To Do In Taipei

Here’s a post for several friends who asked me what’s good to do in Taipei after my many visits there.

Ximending is amazing food and hip shopping district. Try the bittergourd juice located at the end of Han Zhong St. My favourite bites to grad are the duck noodles, carrot cake and noodle soups located along the eateries scattered at the end of Han Zhong St. Try walking along the streets one the edge of the Ximending shopping area to look for local desserts places to try the fragrant and delicious peanut soup. There are streets after streets of small fashion outlets and I highly recommend wandering around and exploring. Don’t be afraid to walk down into basements or up to stores on the upper floors as you never know what you’ll discover. Quite a bit of their lines come from Japan so the workmanship is good and styles very current. I still keep finding gems I’ve missed on each trip back. And if you have a shoe weakness like I do you’ll love the range of shoes styles and many shops are really inexpensive or have shoe specials that could make controlling your shoe-craze-demon hard.. Take the MRT to Ximending.

Ximending Duck Noodle Ximending Dessert

Huaxi Night Market located next to Longshan Temple is a nice place to end up for a late dinner for local Taiwanese nom noms. Check out the fried oyster omlette found at the very end of the long street of stalls. There’s a dessert shop a short distance from the entrance way on the left (ground-floor of shophouse hidden behind a rice dumping stall) which has been open for many years and sells Taiwan style ice-kachang. The rice dumplings from the stall in-front of it are really tasty and filling too. Take the MRT to Longshan Temple.

Huaxi Night Market
Longshan Night Market Longshan Night Market width=

XinDian District is where you will discover locals painting by the riverside as well as taking leisurely walks and enjoying water activities. There is a little street that is full of life as well filled with local tastes, artistes, fruits & vegetable stalls, carnival stalls and Taiwanese knick-knack stores. I recommend taking a walk along the riverside walkway and even renting a paddle boat to cruise up and down the gently flowing river. You’ll also see the beautiful Bitan Suspension Bridge used only by pedestrians. Take the MRT to Xindian.

Xindian District

Danshui is the seaside district in Northern Taipei. This area has streets lined with boardwalk games, quaint little shops and lots of local eats. Gotta try the almond flavour drink as well as the dumplings, fried quails eggs, potato sliced up on a stick thing. If you like them Japanese clogs, this is the place to get them. There’s a shop where you can choose the kind of wood & the kind of string patter you want for your clogs which then custom fit so its comfy for you to walk around in. Off-the-shelves ones are usually too loose. Take the MRT to Danshui.

Danshui District Danshui District

Jade & Flower Weekend Market are two markets located next to each other under a highway at Jianguo South Road. Near one end of the Jade market (the end which isn’t next to the flower market) you’ll see a stall selling beautiful handcrafted glass jewelry. The Flower Market displays an amazing range of flowers, plants and related knick-knacks. After the Flower Market there is also a small Artist Market which sometimes has interesting finds. Take the MRT to Zhongxiao Fuxing or Zhongxia Xinsheng and walk or hop in a cab from the MRT stations.

Jade Market Taipei Flower Market Taipei

Flower Market Taipei Flower Market Taipei

Eslite Mall is an upmarket-style shopping center with a 24 hour book shop with an amazing selection of books as well really trendy shops. Look out for a corner on the upper floors retailing a ginger tonic that is good for health, snazzy electronics and homeware. Take the MRT to Taipei City.

Have a great time in Taipei and let me know how you liked these places.

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Imperfections Of Yesterday

Was having lunch with a friend and we got around to talking about how things don’t last as long these days despite their beautiful form-factor and slick finish.

This got me thinking a little more and I believe things of yesteryears which were lovingly handcrafted have in them the attention, dedication, love and will of their maker which allows them to last longer than items produced speedily by machines. The Malay word for this is hikmat and their belief is that when you pour your hikmat into the making of something, it becomes more special.

Handcrafting has little imperfections but that is part of it’s beauty as that is the visible imprint of the maker.

Thus it seems to be we have traded imperfect things made industriously with lots of heart with the perfection of form produce with great efficiency but lacking in soul.

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Conversations & Sharing On The Social Internet

Here are some posts I’ve read recently about two concepts I find important when engaging with people online.

SOCIAL MEDIA ISN’T ALL ABOUT CONVERSATIONS
Content is an important corner stone of engagement as deeper conversations and sharing can start to happen around relevant content. It can be in many different forms; internal, external, videos, links, photos, quotes, presentations, white-papers, case-studies, opinion pieces, experiences and others.

Tom Martin also shared some interesting behavioural statistics for Twitter & Facebook.

Twitter Users:
38% follow to get updates on future products
32% follow to stay informed about the activities of the company
31% follow to receive discounts and promotions
30% follow to get updates on upcoming sales
28% follow to get a freebie

Facebook Users:
40% follow to receive discounts and promotions
37% follow to show support for the company
36% follow to get a freebie
34% follow to stay informed about the company
33% follow to get updates products

http://socialmediatoday.com/tommartin/217150/social-media-isnt-all-about-conversation

WHY SHARING MATTERS
Chris Brogan writes about sharing how how it “Moves Information To Us More Effectively” and
“Adds Value To The Larger Tapestry”.
http://www.chrisbrogan.com/why-sharing-matters/

Sharing well is sometimes a hard thing to help brand stakeholders grasp.

The reason I call this space the social internet is because the amount of information available online is so overwhelming that we’re now quite reliant on friends and people we think are more clued in to share things with us.

What brand stakeholders think they want to tell audiences may not be considered shareable by fans / followers so it’s a constant effort to educate and open their eyes to understand the perspective of their online audiences.

Here are a few things shared at a recent The Influencer Project that support conversations and sharing:

- David Meerman Scott. “Stop talking about your products and services. People don’t care about products and services; they care about themselves.” -@dmscott
-Robert Scoble. “Follow better people. The better your inbound is, the better your output will be. And your output is what people follow.” -@scobleizer
- Joe Pulizzi. “Create content that stands for something: what I call Higher Purpose Content Marketing.” -@juntajoe
- Robbin Phillips. “It is not about digital. It’s about people. It’s about passion conversations, not product conversations.” -@robbinphillips

60 great insights from The Influencer Project shared at Copyblogger so do check out the full posting here: http://www.copyblogger.com/increase-influence-online/

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NCSM on Facebook!

National Cancer Society Malaysia

NCSM on Facebook

The National Cancer Society of Malaysia (NCSM) is on Facebook!!

 

Become their fan to support the fight against cancer and to help spread awareness. Their FB page will share event details, words of support, cancer news as well as cancer & health living information.
http://www.facebook.com/nationalcancersocietymalaysia

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About Being A Bully & Then Being Bullied

As a 39 year old openly gay man who has been out for twenty over years, I forget how hard it can be growing up being pushed around because you’re a little softer than most other boys. Seeing the recent suicides of Tyler Clementi, Asher Brown, Billy Lucas and Seth Walsh memories from 20+ years ago came back and I recalled the feelings of fear and loneliness that bombarded me when I was their age.

Being a bully at aged 9 I know how amazing the feeling of power is when you lord over a “weaker” individual and rally others against this person. Power often gets to the head and has corrupted many adults so you can imagine its effect on young children who taste it for the first time. Not knowing better, kids look forward to re-experiencing the rush and, often, the unfortunate result is in going too far.

As a kid, it doesn’t really seem that wrong to make a person cry and feel marginalised while you bask in the victory of exercising this “power”. As a kid I didn’t truly understand concepts like low self-esteem, thoughts of suicide or the magnitude of sorrow and regret that comes with a loss of life. As a kid I liked doing what was fun and made me feel good.

Tables get turned in life and several years later I ended up on the receiving end of bullying when I seemed softer and had different interests that other boys. Many nights were spent crying myself to sleep and wishing that I wouldn’t wake up the next morning. I tried slitting my wrists a few times but thankfully the attempts were feeble and I kept on making it through day after day.

Looking back I realise I’m lucky as life sent me down a path that quickly put out those ideas.

I found others like me all through school from age 11. At 12, a guy I liked reciprocated but being nice to me. At 16, I found my way into a school activity group which had positive and strong seniors + alumni who were openly gay so that helped me accept being gay and entertain the idea that there’s life for gay people. The best part was my groups of friends didn’t react much when I came out to them at age 17 and they remain my close friends to this day.

I’m sure you’ve heard this many times these past few weeks. Here’s another 39 year old gay Chinese guy saying it from Southeast Asia. It Gets Better!!

I won’t list down all the wonderful things that have happened in my life as you’ve probably heard from many others. All I want to share is that life as a gay person can get so wonderful you can’t help but smile and thank whatever powers that be for blessing you with such wonder and happiness.

The bullying I did and experienced gave me experiences that I use today in reaching out to people with this website and its coming out stories.

It’s helped me understand a little why kids behave a certain way and know what kind of thoughts would be going through someone’s mind as then contemplate suicide. Just keep these things in mind if you happen to be:

Feeling Crappy When You’re A Kid Happens
Many successful gay people you see went through a period of doubt and darkness in our childhoods but we hung in there and our lives turned around as we found acceptance and unconditional love. In fact, feeling weird, out-of-sorts and like you don’t belong is a normal part of growing up as you search for your place in this world.
The amazing thing is when you find your place in this world among friends and people who love you. That’s when you look forward to the years ahead growing old with them.

Power Is Addictive
Kids who are bullies get caught up in the rush of power they feel. They can say really nasty things they don’t mean just to get a bigger rush. It’s like wanting to repeat having that nice tingly feeling you get when you do something you enjoy. Sometimes people end up doing bad things to others just to get more and more of that feeling.

People Say Nasty Things They Don’t Mean
My mom told me she’d rather not have given birth to me if she knew I would turn out gay when I came out to her. Many years later, we are very close and are each other’s support pillars in life. If I didn’t persist with living, I wouldn’t have the amazing relationship I have with my mom and my father now.

To end this post I’d like to tell my cousin Sean whom I terrorised when we were kids and to the other kids I played with and bullied, I’m really sorry for what I did and I hope to be forgiven.

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