It include characteristics and traits like having a great relationship with his family, having smarts enough to argue back with me, loving the living of life, having an appreciation for art, being able to cook, being active (specifically someone who runs) and quite importantly a guy who would really connect with one of my cats.
- Image via Wikipedia
I have this thing for colours after attending a mindmapping workshop. We were encouraged to doodle little images to make these non-linear lists stick in our memories. Being adventurous and really wanting this to work I doodled. Not being good at drawing didn’t stop me but of course I was a little taken-back by the square jawed tuffy haired person with small eyes I sketched. I started the list all over again and still the drawing was similar if not better proportioned. I thought to myself, “It’s OK … it’s just a sketch … its the qualities that are important.”
Months passed and I forgot about the love list. Then almost two years passed.
As I was cleaning out the house of things I didn’t need last Christmas I saw the love list. Thinking that it wasn’t working I tossed it out with a mental note that I should make a new one. Being busy with flying to and fro Singapore for work I never got the time to.
On a recent trip back to Singapore Alan asked me along to a friend’s big birthday do. I must admit that I felt something unusual urging me to go for this. So I made a conscious effort and even convinced myself to turn up at Sentosa when it seemed like Alan might head to the party earlier since I had dinner plans. Our schedules worked out. Alan and I had an adventure getting to the party and I forgot about that nagging feeling.
Not having been to a gay gathering in years coupled with mostly hanging out with friends only at parties, I ended up staying well within my comfort zone of talking to people I know. If I wasn’t doing that I would sit alone by the pool listening to people talk which can be amusing and telling of people’s characters.
This attracted the likes of a tall someone who has a penchant for seeking out & talking to loners in a gathering.
Well … to cut a soppy story short, he teased me about getting into the pool with the other boys and we eventually did. His confidence and mischievous nature was alluring. We paired off shortly after, talked at length, held hands and then left the party together. The next fews days saw us seeing each other every day which is very unusual for me. He later came up to visit me in K.L. and watching him bond with Jasper suddenly reminded me about the love list I threw out.
Whirlwind romance is the most apt description for how Monkey Prince and I fell into a partnership. Things are still new and we talk via Skype at least three times a day. We’re both amazed at how well we seem to fit each other. I’m constantly tickled by the qualities he has that matches the list I made down to to the squarish jaw and tuffy hair.
So love lists do work.
I guess it does help when you organise your thoughts and have a clear idea of what you hope for before sending it out for the universe to match-make you and orchestrate a meeting.
I’m sharing this so that other single people like I was don’t loose hope on finding someone and make the effort in putting together a love list. Where it works or not, there’s nothing to loose right?
So here are the links that helped me put a love list together and I hope this helps you do yours.
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/How-to-Find-Love-Do-Magic-Lists-Work
Make sure you read this second article about what you need to know before sending your list out to the universe. The most important thing I took away – how it works depends on the level of awareness from which you write it.
http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/How-Magic-Lists-Help-You-Get-What-You-Want-by-Martha-Beck/1
