Comments on: Its Not Easy Being Gay – part 2

By: rabid_sheep

rabid_sheep — Tue, 10 Jul 2007 01:15:49 +0000

Doing well, occupying my spare time with vid games

Heading back to kl for a bit at end of the month

By: JermynToh

JermynToh — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 03:58:42 +0000

plus the fact that u’re hardly in KL and when u are … its for short periods … lagi harder lor

hugs … hope u’re well

By: rabid_sheep

rabid_sheep — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 23:42:27 +0000

Finding the right group to be with isn’t all that easy lor. Connecting with ppl is tough enough, but i think it’s even harder in the gay community.

Sadly, I can seriously say I haven’t been able to scrape very far with most ppl. I’m probably just antisocial tho

By: JermynToh

JermynToh — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 18:48:08 +0000

i think the main difference is places and opportunities to meet up with like-minded people is much easier to find in Singapore than in Malaysia

to be honest .... if i didn't know all the people i knew before arriving in KL ... i wud have been a little depressed at how hard it is to meet people u can have a proper conversation with. my social circle has really been the same ever since i've arrived and altho we go out to all kinds of places, gatherings and do different activities like tennis, watch the occasional play and things .... u sort of meet the same people all the time.

it is hard here .... and for a large percentage ... the primary language is cantonese and so for those who speak english predominantly that's much much harder

its often the case where if u stumble upon a group that u can sort of click with ... u hang out with them. engaging each other and progressing to a deeper frenship ... i think that takes time and willingness and not everyone is that open and willing

By: JermynToh

JermynToh — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 18:40:55 +0000

the salesgirl working at anthro … and i swear it has helped me some times

By: sacred_faith

sacred_faith — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 14:53:42 +0000

think it really comes down to how lucky one is to find the correct friends… but i do find gay people harder to become good friends with… not to say it is impossible.

By: shaoann

shaoann — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 07:39:55 +0000

who is the wise fren who taught you that phrase, pray …

By: zenhiao

zenhiao — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 07:32:59 +0000

i guess i'm in danger of judging your friend but i guess i should give him the benefit of the doubt.

i have often heard this lament.
but my own experience is that there a zillions of guys out there who will make good friends and can talk deeper, less-superficial stuff.
but they are not going to be easy to spot sitting at Dome.
and somehow i suspect your friend would not classify these people as "cute"....
where would people like that hang out?
what would their interests and hobbies be like?
where would people with such interests and hobbies hang out?
where would you be most likely get to meet such people?